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Child maintenance after separation

How the amount is set, free help from the youth welfare office, adjusting for age and income β€” and why contact must not be linked to money.

βœ“ Checked: 01/08/2026

Child maintenance after a separation is simple in principle and demanding in detail: the parent the child does not live with contributes money, the other contributes care. The duty attaches to the family relationship rather than to marriage or nationality, so the same rules apply to unmarried couples.

  1. 1

    STEP

    Who owes what: child maintenance after separation

    The parent the child does not live with pays in money; the other contributes through care. The duty exists regardless of whether the parents were married.

  2. 2

    STEP

    The youth welfare office helps for free

    The parent the child lives with can have the youth welfare office run the maintenance case β€” set the amount, create an enforceable title, collect. It is free and needs no lawyer.

  3. 3

    STEP

    Adjustments: income, age and new obligations

    A fixed amount does not last forever. It changes when the child moves into the next age band, when income changes, and when new maintenance duties arise.

  4. 4

    STEP

    Contact: a right independent of the money

    The right of contact and the duty to pay exist independently of each other. Neither side may link them, though both try.

β€Ί More about this route

This four-step route covers all of it: how the amount is determined and why figures must come only from the current table, the free assistance of the youth welfare office, adjusting the amount as the child grows and incomes change, and finally contact β€” the question constantly conflated with the money.

The most useful part is also the least known: on application the youth welfare office takes over the maintenance case entirely β€” calculating, obtaining an enforceable title and pursuing the claim. Free of charge, without a lawyer, and without touching parental rights.

WHERE PEOPLE MOST OFTEN LOSE MONEY AND TIME

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT THIS ROUTE

Does the duty to pay depend on whether the parents were married?β–Ύ

No, it attaches to the family relationship rather than to marital status. The same applies to unmarried couples; only the way paternity is established differs where it has not been acknowledged.

How do I find the correct amount?β–Ύ

The law sets a minimum graded by age bands, and practice uses a table mapping the payer’s net income to an amount. It is revised each year, so figures must come from the current version.

Is involving the youth welfare office risky for my parental rights?β–Ύ

No β€” this worry is common and unfounded. The assistance concerns maintenance and parentage only, parental responsibility is untouched, and the application can be withdrawn at any time.

Can contact be refused while payments are outstanding?β–Ύ

No. The child’s right to contact with both parents is not consideration for maintenance, and refusal on that ground is unlawful. It also weakens the refusing parent’s position in any later proceedings.

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